MY STORY

Hey There!

I’m Sharonda, but amongst my community of single mommies, I go by the name “Mommy Shar”.

I'm a single mother of multiples (four children), and have been sedulously raising my children alone since 2005. I am a woman who knows, all too well, the headaches and heartaches that go hand in hand with the single parent life. I’ve wrestled with the sadness, insecurities, frustration, loneliness and the intermittent fears that can accompany this unique parenting experience.

All the things that threaten the well-being and mental health of most single mothers, have been a hard to escape part of my journey.

I know the fears that challenge a single mother's ability to live her life victoriously and I know firsthand what it's like to have become a single mom as a result of circumstances beyond one's control.
I know the feeling of thinking that becoming a single mom is your fault and what it's like to falter beneath the weight of carrying such a burden.
I know the loss of a spouse that leads to parenting alone.
I know the death of a covenant relationship that can leave a woman and her children abandoned and feeling totally uncertain and without needful support.

In short, I know and have endured loss more than I ever cared to talk about and certainly more than I could've imagined as a young girl dreaming about motherhood and what it would be like.

To think that these trials encompassed only one, wildly insane season of my life, seems unimaginable, but it's true. It was a long, crazy season of my life, and yet the losses that I'd experienced even before them are more than enough to fill the pages of a years' long melodrama. In my own words, my life has been filled with ebbs and flows of the "CRAZY LIFE” BELIEVE IT OR NOT!

In spite of it all, I'm STILL here.

I STILL have a relationship with God!

I STILL have my sanity and I STILL have HOPE.

Now I've been chosen to share my journey, my life's work and my life's story with you.

You see, God didn't allow all of these experiences so that I would start a ministry for mom "mourners". I’ve learned that He has allowed me to endure trials so that I’d start a ministry for single mom/mom "victors". In this life, I've known some pains, but because I gave my life to Jesus when I was 29 years old, I know many victories and I am certain of the many more to come!

Truthfully, I've known more victories than I've known pain because of my renewed life in and with Christ. That's why I’m not only excited to have started "Give 'Em Heels" Ministry for single mothers, their supporters, other moms and single women in our mom community, but I’m humbled to also be a partaker.

In my heart, I'm driven and passionate about seeing those gifted to be single mothers, those that are moms and other women overcome any and every obstacle or challenge in their path. I’m dedicated to seeing them walk in wholeness: physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I desire to see single moms, moms and single women supporting one another, existing alongside one another and assisting each other in tactile, tangible ways that will make life more bearable and meaningful for all.

As a single mom for almost two decades, a registered nurse, a worshiper, pray warrior, writer and Kingdom of God representative, I have experiences to share that will enlighten and encourage you while making you laugh hysterically or causing you to cry compassionately. As a member of this heartfelt community of women, you will also be challenged to put trust in God like never before. My hope is that my experiences will help you to understand that being a single mother is a special assignment from God. An assignment that He never intended for you to be run down or ran over by, but one that He called you to walk tall, sophisticated and authoritatively over, while metaphorically wearing your heels.

Take it from a woman who loves being a mom, loves and adores her children, loves her stilettoes, perfume, "pursed-lip" selfies and all the other little knickknacks that come along with being a girly girl! If God equipped me with the power to stride over many scorpions in my life, then Single Mom Sister, Friend, Chile...He can equip you too!!

So c’mon let’s overcome this world TOGETHER in our heels (XOXOXOXO)